John Mikel Obi says he played in a World Cup match in 2018 for Nigeria not knowing if he would come off the field to find out his father had been shot.
The midfielder was told before facing Argentina that his father had been kidnapped for a second time.
Mikel, 31, reportedly paid 10m naira (about £21,000) for his release.
"I thought I was going to lose my dad, I thought he was going to be shot because of the demands and stuff," he told BBC World Service's Sportsworld.
"They said they would shoot him and in the back of my head during the game, I thought that after the match I would probably find out they had decided to shoot him.
"It's life. It's made me stronger as a person. I can look at so many things and say 'this is not going to shake me because I've been through worse'. I just hope that it never happens again and my dad can enjoy the rest of his life in peace."
Mikel, now playing for Championship club Middlesbrough, found out while he was on his way to the St Petersburg Stadium for the World Cup group game in June that his father and his driver had been kidnapped at gunpoint in Nigeria.
The former Chelsea man said that he chose not to tell anyone what was happening as he wanted the players to focus on the game.
"It was difficult for me. When I heard that it had happened it was heartbreaking for me, especially with the timing. I knew it would be traumatic for my dad," he said.
"I didn't say anything to anyone in the national team because I was the captain and I had to lead. It was my responsibility to lead the team and I wasn't going to say I couldn't play or have them thinking about my dad rather than the football. I took it on myself and held it in.
"It stayed in my head during the game and you could see afterward how I felt."
This month, Mikel's national team-mate Samuel Kalu suffered a similar ordeal when his mother was kidnapped in the south-eastern city of Abia.
Mikel, who has not played for his country since the 2-1 defeat by Argentina in Russia, believes the country's authorities need to do more to prevent it from happening again.
"I called Samuel when his mother was kidnapped and gave him my advice as someone who has been through it twice. I knew how he would be feeling. I was glad when his mother was released because you don't want anyone going through that," he added.
"I suppose these things happen every day with different families and obviously we want to see the authorities take more responsibility, but Nigeria is a very crowded place and you can't manage the security.
"You go out and you don't know if you will come back. The government needs to look into it and they can do more."
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